53: Brave Parenting: Modeling and Fostering Resilience
Guest: Krissy Pozatek, Parent Coach, Wilderness Therapist, and Author, Brave Parenting
In this episode Lauren talks with parent coach, wilderness therapist, and author Krissy Pozatek, about how to navigate the polarities of parenting, including control/neglect, enmeshment/abandonment, and rigidity/chaos; using Brave Parenting tools that help us model and foster resilience.
Some key tools include:
Increasing our own tolerance for discomfort so that we can model and teach facing issues and growing from them rather than fixing or avoiding.
Allowing our children opportunities to solve their own problems, while remaining present and willing to help when asked, which is different from stepping in and solving or fixing for our kids.
Becoming more conscious of our own fears and triggers, of the times in which we are most tempted to “lay leather,” meaning to fix or solve for our kids rather than support them in “building moccasins,” meaning listening and giving help when asked while witnessing our children explore and experiment with their own solutions to their problems.
Prioritizing ourselves and our own life’s journey and being a loving and present guide for our children as they travel their own parallel path, which is different than trying to walk their path for them or unconsciously ask them to join us on our preferred path.
Remembering to have lots of compassion for ourselves and our children as we learn and grow alongside each other.
About Krissy Pozatek
Krissy Pozatek currently works as a parent coach with parents of struggling adolescents and young adults through her coaching practice, Parallel Process, established in 2006. Krissy has had fifteen years of experience in the wilderness therapy and adolescent treatment field and a graduate degree in clinical social work from both Smith College School for Social Work and at N.M. Highlands University. Her clinical experience includes the treatment of depression, anxiety, dual diagnosis, adoption issues, trauma, self-harming behavior, substance abuse, personality disorders, and family system problems.
Krissy is the author of The Parallel Process: Growing Alongside Your Adolescent or Young Adult Child in Treatment, Brave Parenting: A Buddhist-Inspired Guide to Raising Emotionally Resilient Children, and Brave Teaching: Bringing Emotional-Resiliency Skills From the Wilderness to the Classroom.
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For more on Krissy Pozatek and her other works, visit: www.parallel-process.com
